Our times are tough, and stress is waiting for everyone behind every corner. Here we are going to talk about how not to get into the trap of stress and to avoid emotional exhaustion. Below there are 10 recommendations from the field of psychology.
1. Find the Source of Stress
When one feels stressed, one thinks every single thing is going not as it was planned. Emotional suppression and lack of energy are reflected onto every branch of their life: studying, family, friends, everything. At the same time, there is often the only one source of stress. When it is found and neutralized, a human can recover really fast. Try to define the reason. It might be a difficult project at college, a conflict in relationships, or even mass-media which influence your mind.
Once the source of your stress is found: congratulations, you’ve made your first step on the way of getting rid of it.
2. Analyze It
While being under the influence of stress, you can miss obvious and easy solutions. Talk to your relatives, visit a psychologist, or just think in a calm and silent environment. If you can solve the problem, do that as fast as you can. The more time passes – the more stressed you become. Maybe there is any difficult conversation or decision waiting for you, but once you overcome it – you’ll feel much better. So, enough with thinking. Act!
And if the situation is out of your control, just try to minimize your contact with it. Put headphones on, don’t watch TV, don’t talk to people who irritate you if there is no such need.
3. Do Something Pleasant
Dedicate a week (or a day, or at least a couple of hours) to your favorite activity. Many people say stress takes inspiration away. Then go for at least something. Any activity distresses your attention, taking you away from your worries. Sports, home routine, even simple everyday tasks will help you get out of your stress and emotions, making it easier to come back to life.
4. Control Your Time
Don’t let yourself waste time on “chewing” the same thoughts, Internet surfing, social media, chatting, non-profitable dialogues. Control yourself and your time, give yourself compliments once you are busy with anything useful and necessary. Dedicate enough time for sleep, sports and fresh air walks.
5. Create Your Techniques’ List
Choose ways which help you most. For instance, when you’re trapped in the jam, it’s an audiobook that helps you deal with stress. If you’re worried before any public speech, there are breathing techniques to calm you down. To charge up in the morning, smile looking through the window.
One thing: that should be your own list. Write down a new technique once you successfully deal with stress.
6. No Useless Activity
Analyze your ordinary day. Do you really do something that helps you get closer to your goal? Do you do what you like? Who needs what you dedicate your time to? Of course, it’s impossible to get rid of useless activity totally. But try to minimize that at least. Free yourself. Delegate. Maybe there are people surrounding you who’ll do that with pleasure.
7. Don’t Feed Stresses
It was proven long ago: bad sleep, unhealthy food, alcohol, too much coffee make you more vulnerable in front of the influence of external factors. At least you are able not to allow your stress to capture you totally.
8. Strong Emotional Borders
It often happens that way: people surrounding you are the real source of your stress. For instance, a neighbor who caught you up on stairs, and talked about something useless during 15 minutes. An inattentive driver who cut your way on the road. A relative who phoned and complained on relationship problems for an hour. The more you are emotionally involved into other people’s problems, the more stressed you become. Let them all know you’ve got important things to do, too. Try doing that in a correct, polite, but clear manner.
9. Divide Worrying and Caring
Every time you have an emotionally loaded conversation with someone, ask yourself: what can I really do for this person? You’ve got to understand: nothing will change if you sleep badly, feel stressed and worried about other human’s troubles. If you want to provide some help for anyone, do that through real actions: help financially, bring them to people who can do something, just listen to them and tell supportive words, at least.
10. Learn to Forgive
Develop tolerance inside of your soul. Remember that people are all different. Everyone has a right to have their own opinion or to make a mistake. Hold back your desire to emotionally prove anything to anybody. If you’ve got arguments, and it is important for you to make the other person hear them, check these three things:
- See if the person is ready to listen to you;
- Calmly present your thoughts;
- Let the other person think on your words.
And before trying to convince someone, ask yourself: why do you need that and what doesn’t let you understand and accept their mind?